Someone had told me about grief 1. No matter how prepared you think you are for a death, you can never be fully prepared for the loss and the grief. 2. You can plan for death, but death does not always comply with our wishes or plans. 3. “Stop avoiding and be present.” 4. “Dying is not like you see on TV or in the movies. It is not peaceful or prepared. You may not have a spiritual or meaningful moment. It’s too real.” 5. A hospital death is not always a bad death. 6. A home death/hospice death is not always a good death. 7. “There will be pressure from others to move on, even minutes or hours after a death, and this can lead to regrets”. 8. “Death is not an emergency. There is always time to step back and take a moment to say goodbye.” 9. Death and grief make people uncomfortable, so be prepared for awkward encounters. 10. You will plan the funeral while in a haze. If you aren’t happy with the funeral you had, have another memorial service later. 11. When people offer support, take th